A few of my favourite things

[quantumcupcakes]

Most friending memes or communities that I've come across seem to want you to list out your top fives, your favourites and that is not something I am particularly good at. I can either name nothing because you've put me on the spot and I've panicked, or you'll never shut me up because you've asked me to talk about things I love

I understand why it's a popular question. It's something people can bond over, there's that automatic 'oh, you like the same things as me', it's a starting point for conversation and it gives a common ground to start a friendship from.

I also wish I wasn't quite so 'shy' online. I'm not in real life, I'm a sociable woman who will chat away to anyone but the idea of commenting on peoples posts is somewhat nerve wracking. When it's just words, outside of academia, I lack confidence. I don't know how to properly convey myself, to express what I'm thinking and feeling. I rely as much on body language, tone, facial expression, gesture as I do words and not being able to use them.

I'm also somewhat unsure of how to introduce myself. My standard little profile blurb of

My name is Samantha and I’m a Welsh geek who loves to bake, especially cupcakes. I also have a passion for physics, engineering, mechanics, floral dresses, rugby, 80s pop music and science fiction

doesn't seem quite enough. It is a nutshell varient of me although it seems so much of what I think makes me is missing... but I'm not entirely sure what does constitute a proper introduction/profile, what information is pertinent or interesting and what I can say that makes me 'attractive' to other people.

Especially as I don't think of myself as a fandom person

This all makes the whole friending issue somewhat difficult.

Jack says I'm overthinking it. Lucy says I need to just be myself. Both of which are simultaneously true yet rather unhelpful.